Yes, I need confirmation in my life!
Most people spend every waking minute trying to hide what they are and how they really think out of the fear of being judged… Myself included.
Just the thought that your beliefs and dreams can get shut down by the people closest to you, the ones that should support you, is terrifying. And it goes so deep that we hide and lie, we keep ourselves bottled up and locked away, that we forget to trust ourselves. We forget to trust that what we want and know is best for us are the things we fight for, not what others tell us we SHOULD want or need.
The moment I realized this… well there were actually two: first was the moment I told my best friend what I wanted to become and what I wanted to do in life – until he said ‘wow! That’s awesome!’ I didn’t know I was holding my breath and that my stomach was in knots – and the second was the moment he asked me: ‘do you really need my confirmation for this?’
It’s amazing how much we crave the support of others! Because it can either make us believe in ourselves or flatten everything we’ve been striving so hard to build until that moment… the moment you trust yourself enough to let someone into your life.This is the point of no-return, giving someone the chance to know you better and trusting them to not use the things they learn against you.
When have we become so powerless in our own lives? So quick to let others decide what’s best for us? To see if they approve the things we believe are best for us?
And all this from the thought that you may never find someone like the person standing in front of you?
But if they’re the ones dictating your lives, the question remains: why would you want to find someone like that, instead of someone who asks you what you want to do, pats you on the shoulder and says: ‘I know you can do it!’, even when you’re not so sure yourself.